Thursday, February 28, 2013

Is This It?

A 3 year old..

A 1 year old..
Pregnant with Twins..

The big question is-are we done? Are we done having kids? Will we be a family of 6? Are we complete?

I have SO many thoughts on this subject and the final answer is, I dont know!

I have always wanted 5 kids. Its a number I picked and have stuck with it. Tom says he would prefer 4. He says 5 is a circus. ;) I wanted to be done having kids by 30. I can totally squeeze another on in over the next 4 years.

On one hand, I cant imagine this being my last pregnancy. On the other, I cant imagine going to the RE and asking him to get me pregnant, with 4 small children at home. It feels so greedy.

Tom and I talked and agreed that we wont make a "final" decision until our babies are 1 year. We will keep our 4 embryos frozen and wait until enough time has passed and we can make a rational decision. Im not a huge fan of doing anything permanent. I tell him that we pay so much money to get pregnant, I dont want to spend money on the opposite. 

So, we will wait and see! 

I will say...if there are two baby boys in my belly...there will be #5!

18 comments:

Holly said...

I so hear ya! I never thought my pregnancy after the triplets would be the last. And here we are again, about to have five kids under 2.5 years old. And...we wouldn't change it for the world. We always say how boring life would be if we didn't have all our lovely little ladies. I knew this would be my last pregnancy (now) but still I go back and forth between emotions of being sad it's finally the "last one" and thinking, "oh I could so easily have 10 kids!" But since my hubby just had a vasectomy, we know Anna-Kate is our last! Just follow your heart!

Mrs. Harvey said...

So, if you do have two little boys and decide to have another one...what if the fifth is another boy too? Will you have a sixth? We have two and while I would love another one, I just know it's not in the cards for us unless we adopt at some point. I want to be able to provide for them to the best of our ability, and right now, that's just not best for us and our children. :)

Laid Back Sal said...

Babies, Babies, Babies!!!! How exciting :-)

McWilliams Family Blog said...

Lol! We have four, and I'm pretty sure its a circus here. I can't imagine five.

Jen: Proud Mom of 1 Genetic Child after 40 and 7 Adopted Miracle Blessings said...

Follow your heart!!! We've been blessed with four from Russia, one special needs domestic adoption, twins from adopting embryos and one genetic miracle after 15 years of trying and I'd LOVE another...if you ever want information about embryo donation/adoption, please feel free to visit my blog or contact me privately!!!

I'm thrilled you are pregnant with twins!!!It was a dream of mine as well!!!

Jen
http://3babes2jens1cause-embryoadoption.blogspot.com/

Stace said...

I refuse to say this is my last as well! And I'm pretty sure it won't be... but I think I'm going to be a lot more reluctant to set foot in the RE's office again. I'm hoping that it will work naturally as the time comes. :)

It's hard to be so young and to think of officially closing up shop.

Kelly said...

You will know when it's time. I truly believe when you are done, you will feel it! I know in my heart that these two boys I have are all I need and that our family is complete. Until you stop second guessing, you are not finished ;) does that make sense?

Kriss said...

I'm a little sad that this will be my one and only pregnancy. I think that's why god let it be twins! Five kids are our limit though plus thats all that will fit in our new van. Lol

NBO Momma said...

I think you're wise to not be making any big decisions about this right now. You never know how your feelings may change. Speaking as someone who had all three of mine in my thirties, you may even decide to have more after you turn thirty ;)

jlb1094 said...

I dont want to be a negative nelly but the gender of your babies should not matter. Their health is most importantt. I buried my son when he was just shy of 5 months old. He had a rare auto immune disorder. Just be glad you have healthy kids. You are not selfious for wanting more itsa natural feling I truly believe. Just count your blessings every day.

Jodi said...

Dont feel greedy it's not your fault you need help to get pregnant. I kind of felt the same way going to the dr when i already have b/g twins the nurse said well it's your right to have more if you want lol so true.. I am so happy for your and would completely understand your yearning for a daughter too :) I know you appreciate everything you have i feel it come through in all your posts.

My Husband's Watching TV... said...

You are so lucky that you got so many embryos and have that choice to make your family even bigger. Of our 5 embryos, we got our sweet AR. I say we're done because I don't want to spend the money to go through everything again but sometimes I get crazy thinking, maybe we could do it just one more time...

JoyBelle said...

People ask if we're done all the time. Most of the time it doesn't bother me unless some wide-eyed stranger comes at me in public, as if it is their business to know.

Pregnant with #5 (guess we have a circus) and I still don't have the answer as if they are the last. We're trying to figure that out but we don't feel a peace about any decision just yet so for now... we aren't making one.

Meg said...

What would you do with the four frozen babies you have that are waiting for a chance at life?

paige said...

I had the same question as Meg.. Cause they're already there & created... Just waiting. :)

Kelly said...

So much fun! I was wondering, so now I know. 4 is a great number, then again, I agree...if you have 4 boys...go for #5. :)

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