Thursday, March 25, 2010

Screw Her

I just came across this article while researching breastmilk storage..

"Jennifer Lopez tells Elle magazine that in vitro treatments are not an option for her.

The mother of 22-month-old twins shared her thoughts on the subject: "When it comes to family and relationships, I’m quite traditional -- just because of the way I was raised. And I also believe in God and I have a lot of faith in that, so I just felt like you don't mess with things like that."

"I guess deep down, I really felt like either this is not going to happen for me or it is," she continues. "You know what I mean? And if it is, it will. And if it's not, it’s not going to."

The 40-year-old will play a woman who has a child through artificial insemination in the upcoming comedy, 'The Back-Up Plan.' "

Two words for Jennifer Lopez..SCREW YOU!

If I hadnt used the miracle of IVF, Trevor wouldnt be here today. There would be something very wrong with the world. I believe in God and still "messed' with those things. What rude, horrible terminology. I cant stand ignorant people!

I will NOT be going to see your dumb movie. I hope it makes $4.

29 comments:

Baby Wanted said...

I will say this, her wording SUCKS and I also think she needs to screw herself. But I do agree with her in some ways. I was faced with a very hard decision and in the end, I chose to pursue the miracle of adoption rather than the miracle of IVF because I felt there was a reason God made my womb barren. I just feel that God didn't make me "broken" so I could use modern science to concieve. I don't think IVF is wrong or unGodly by any means but it just wasn't for us because I didn't believe in it for myself. I really love you and I think Trevor is amazing so please don't take my comment wrong.

Kaycee said...

I hate it when people (famous or not) judge other people's choices. And the way she says that sounds judgemental. I think ALL people make the decisions that they feel are best for themselves and their families. You did that and you have your adorable son. And that IS right for you and where you feel you were led. Even if that's not how she feels she should not judge where someone else is coming from.

Keep enjoying that adorable boy. :)

Stephanie RN BSN (to be!) said...

How condescending that comment was from her! I know God uses all sorts of situations to bring precious children into the world...who gives a crap what Jennifer Lopez thinks.

Trevor is a beautiful miracle of God and nothing that witch can say will take away how special he is :)

Lauren said...

You can tell she obviously has never been through infertility... and she's definitely not thinking about how judgmental she's being! Unbelievable! It's one thing to believe that something just isn't for you and your family, but to take it as far as she did was frankly irresponsible in my opinion.

Courtney said...

That's so interesting, because my spider senses have told me that I think she did some sort of ART in order to get pg. Maybe they didn't, but we all know the odds. They did try to get pregnant for a while, but she acted surprised when it was twins. If that's the truth, wow. But I have to wonder if they didn't have 'help' from modern technology (as well as God) to get pregnant...

Saffy said...

Ah yeah, SCREW HER. To be honest I actually thought her twins were the result of a little medical assistance - I just presume now when I see a celeb with twins that they are. Does that make me terribly judgemental like her?

I take my hat off to anyone who goes thru IVF. I haven't had to (I'm a good maker, bad oven) but close friends have and I see the love that's behind their decision to follow the IVF road. It's a step in the process to achieving the parenting dream - well that's how I see it. A step that (hopefully) leads you to the same outcome as anyone else - you know J-Lo - like um.... a family?

And Trevor is just oh so precious. As will his future sibling(s) :)

Amber said...

How rude and I can't help but say that I have always found her incredibly annoying. I know, harsh words but what an ignorant comment. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and to be fair she was being interviewed but just because you do not believe in something per say, does not mean that it is not right in the eyes of God. In fact, I love God and truly believe that God gave the wisdom and the power to heal to doctors and nurses.

Aunt L said...

I just came across your blog and I just have to say you are such an inspiration for me and I'm sure many others as well!

I also would add that modern science has given us so many other things besides giving us the ability to concieve. Does that mean we shouldn't be messing with life by using all those as well? I don't believe for a second that she got pregnant without any sort of help. What a hypocrite. You have to do what is right for you and no one else can make that decision for you.

twondra said...

I read that article and it made me so mad. I did a post about it awhile ago and talked about how people need to dissect everything in life and how I bet Jennifer Lopez has been to the doctor and taken antibiotics....which is "playing God" if you consider IVF "playing God", ya know? It's so frustrating to me.

Beth said...

First of all, if IVF was "playing God" no one would need to ever do more than one becuase it would always work. Second, I truly believe that God leads people to different things. For some people, God does not think IVF is right but for others it is. I felt such a peace in my heart when we decided to move on to IVF that I knew God was telling me this is the right thing do to. However, despite this peace that has not kept others from telling me that God thinks what I'm doing is wrong. In fact, I just ended a friendship of almost 20 years last week because she told me that my ectopic pregnancy was God's way of telling me that it was wrong to do IVF in the first place. THe last time I checked, a true Christian is not supposed to judge others...but for some reason people think it doesn't apply where fertility is concerned. Trevor is a true miracle sent from God and I know God has special plans for you to add to you family!

Dan and Gretchen said...

Never have been a fan of that ignorant wench anyway, but certainly won't be now. I think unless you've walked a day in these shoes, people have absolutely no concept of the heart ache that comes with. That just makes my blood boil that she could be so heartless and voice her opinion in such a poorly thought out fashion!!! Ok, I will now remove myself from my soapbox :) Some people really make me angry!

Carol said...

Thank God for the wonders of modern medicine that allows many people who would otherwise not be able to conceive do so. It is NOBODY else's business what one decides to do in the reproductive arena as long as it is legal and not dangerous to mother or child, in my opinion. I, for one, as a grandmother to be, am very thankful for all research and progress in medicine in all areas including reproduction. So there, Miss Movie Star!

kim_brough said...

It's all a personal decision. Her wording was off, I'll agree. I would never do in vitro, but if that's okay with you and the Big Man and the little man (your hubs!) it's all good.

Tera said...

My feelings are that God chooses whether ANY baby is brought into this world. If He uses trials like infertility and the miracle of IVF to strengthen someone, then I believe that is all a part of HIS plan. IVF wouldn't work if God didn't allow it to. Trevor is heaven-sent. :)

Barefoot said...

Interesting, because I had always assumed (because of her age and the twin thing) that she'd had fertility treatments. Maybe that's why she's so annoyingly vocal about it?

Sue said...

I don't like her either. Wow, how ignorant and offensive. She may isolate some of her fans with this, oh well!

Brittany said...

WOW! How ignorant of her to say that!! God has given us modern medicine to help us! I don't hope her movie makes $4.... I hope it makes NOTHING! Don't let this get you down.... Trevor is a blessing and nothing anyone says will ever take that away :)

Nicole said...

An easy analogy for this stupid philosophy is... okay, so we didn't use to know about CPR. So if Marc is dying is she going to sit there and watch because you don't mess with things like that (because clearly God must want him to die), or is she going to call 911 and do CPR? If her kid gets cancer is she going to refuse chemo? Honestly people! God gives us tech advances and medicine for a reason.
I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that God always planned for me to have biological children but that He also expected me to go through a lot of IF to get there so I could learn and grow the way He had planned as well. I know that IVF is exactly what God wanted me to do. Boo J-Lo.

Nicole said...

(Um, and let's not forget that ART/IVF or not you still can't take God and His will out of the outcome. You could do 100 cycles and still never get pregnant if God doesn't plant a little soul in your embie. Besides, God helps he who helps himself!)

☆ Loren ☆ said...

As a Christian I believe every living thing and person on this earth (and the earth itself in fact) is created by God. No ifs ands or buts about it. God created all life, wether through natural conception or otherwise. As I drift closer and closer to the 4 year mark on this infertility journey I'm having to come to terms with the fact I may never be physicaly able to carry a child. My medical issues are enough without adding in ivf and pregnancy. So I envy the women like you who are strong enough physicaly and emotionaly to follow the IVF path. I've told you from day one how much of an inspiration to me you are and I think that is even more true today than it was the very first blog post of yours I read! :) Trevor is not only a child of God, but a miracle sent from God... Not just your miracle, but all of ours! The world is a better place because that sweet boy is a part of it!!

Mrs.Joe said...

I always thought that Jennifer Lopez went through infertility - she was old and had twins . . . and I could have sworn I heard that they were through fertility treatments. Guess not. Who cares what she thinks? She should keep her ignorant opinions to herself. Just because a baby is concieved through IVF doesn't make them any less of a miracle.

Peppermint Patty said...

God gives us brains (so use them!) and some medical intervention to help us (I don't believe in cloning, embronic stem sell, etc.).

So is JLo saying that if you have Polio, don't use the vaccine? Or an infection, don't use antibiotics?

Jessica@The Southern Belle Baby said...

I could not agree with you more. I already disliked her, but then I read this, and let's just say I won't be inviting her over for tea anytime soon.

I believe that God is responsible for all life, regardless of the method of conception. He gave mankind the ability to think and solve problems, why shouldn't we utilize those gifts to help people have babies? All anyone needs to do is look at sweet Trevor and know that God is behind his creation and his conception.

I think certain people are called to do things differently- some pursue adoption, some pursue IVF, and both are great ways to create a family. If there weren't assisted reproduction technologies out there, there would be many childless couples, and I don't believe for one second that God doesn't want these people to be parents. Through Him all things are possible, whether they're done in the conventional way or not.

Trevor is a little miracle baby, and I am so happy that you got to be his mommy. :)

Beth said...

My son, and first born twins (now heaven's angels) were all conceived via IVF. Jennifer Lopez's views regarding OUR means of conception don't phase me at all. I have no regrets as to how we went about creating our family. Take peace in knowing you did what was best for you and your family. If anything, J.L. is just a blow-hard. This is a woman who's jumped in and out of marriages and sings about designer shoes and inconsequential things.

Melissa said...

God gave man wisdom. That wisdom has led to IVF. God is still in control, you can't make your path straight if he is making it crooked no matter what you do. Just because someone does IVF doesn't mean its going to work, I don't beleive you are playing God when you do IVF. God knew us before we were conceived so he knows every life already - conveived by IVF or not - and has his plan in place.

Kerri said...

Interesting. I always assumed her twins were the result of IVF or some kind of fertility treatment.

I don't understand people who make statements like that. I think it's easy to judge and say what you would or would not do when you haven't been faced with the situation. Until you've gone through infertility, you don't know what you'd choose. Period.

I don't understand the reasoning that using science to help conceive is "going against God" either. Modern medicine has allowed us to do so many things that we wouldn't otherwise be able to do. For example, if a teenager has a failing heart and gets a heart transplant, is that going against God? Because maybe God intended for the teenager's heart to be bad and for him to die young?

I guess my point is that the "going against God/nature" card can be applied to so many different situations, but seems to only become an issue when talking about infertility.

Oh, and one more quick thing-- I wonder what God thinks of her 3 marriages?!

Ok, I'm done. I can't believe I devoted this much time to thinking about Jennifer Lopez.

Julie said...

I agree with the last comment...do we really want to get into what Jennifer Lopez does or doesn't do to please God??? Please...she trademarked the low cut boobs hanging out dress. I think God is more concerned that you keep your knockers underwrap than how you conceive a baby.

Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs or whatever but I TOTALLY think she did in vitro. She's just trying to throw people off her scent. Or she did some sort of fertility treatments. I mean, what old lady has fraternal twins naturally? Uh uh. What makes Clomid or whatever she did different than in vitro.

Dumb Jersey girl.

Ashley said...

I read that article too and it made me so irriated! I believe in God as well and there is only so much with IVF that I can do. God has to do the rest. I saw the preview to her new movie and it made me so angry and made me want to cry all at the same time (stupid IVF meds...haha). I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way!

Angela said...

It's easy to say what you would or wouldn't do when you've never been faced with that decision yourself. If God had another plan for you to get to Trevor then I don't think IVF would have been your path to your miracle baby. But it was, so don't let J. Lo get to you. YOU know what you did was not wrong. :-)

Trevor is such a beautiful miracle. ...and we all know it. :-)