Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Two Questions

#1-Tom and I are trying to decide whether we should circumcise our little man. I would love to hear what you think. I told Tom it was ultimately his decision, but he is feeling pretty indecisive.

#2-I am having a hard time deciding on what lightweight stroller to register for. We have our luxurious Graco travel system already. I want something that is convenient and lightweight for simple trips. My main concern is spending too much. I really want to be purchasing a double stroller in the near future and don't want to spend a ton and have it get little use. Any suggestions?

Thanks in advance!

49 comments:

Alyssa said...

#1 If we were having a boy, he would be circumcised.

Laura said...

I have a Chicco lightweight stroller and I LOVE it! I could not live with out it. It is also very convenient with 2 children going places! I have a 5 and 3 year old and my son sits in that often while my daughter walks. I have had it since she was younger and he was my baby :( I would push her in the stroller and carry him in the baby bjorn.

My son was circumcised and I would not change it but it is a very personal decision. Mckmamma has a post about it on her blog. it is very informative and interesting you should chick it out!

Laura

Dawn said...

I'm for circumcizing. I had a friend that was married to a man that wasn't. He always had trouble with it, because apparently they are hard to clean if you're not. So he finally went in and got it done, a grown man at the time. And it wasn't a fun surgery.

The Wright Family said...

I have a Combi single and just bought the double version for the new peanut. It is FABULOUS!! My first HATED the infant seat so I ditched the travel system when she was 2 weeks old (she was in a convertible seat in the car) and never regreted it for a second! This one rides in the infant seat (for now -- she's not really a fan either) and I take her out of it for the stroller and she does great! It folds up small bit is more substantial than an umbrella stroller. Read the reviews...the only bad thing anyone says is that that handle isn't taller enough but they seem to have fixed that on the newer ones (my double is taller). I bought a stroller tray from One Step Ahead to attach because it doesn't have a good place to put snacks or toys but I just now bought it (I used snack traps and the links for toys and treats for Lainey). Good luck deciding!!! Go look in the store too...it helps if you take it off the shelf and mess with it.

The Wright Family said...

My grandfather was circumcised as an adult bc he was having issues and it was apparently really painful. They supposedly can't feel it as an infant (which is hard for me to fathom!!).

The Thai Family said...

We did not circumcise our little boy. Saw no need for it.If you teach good hygiene it should not be necessary. It's a very personal choice though. My personal feeling is that the baby is born that way and meant to be that way. We don't go trimming off anything else on a baby right? just my though. We just used our travel system stroller without the car seat for easy trips... not exactly lightweight but we did eventually get a double jogger when we got a double and it's so easy to steer (but ours has a option to have the front wheel swivel and that is primarily why it's so easy to steer one handed)

Megan said...

both of my boys are. My hubs and i chose to do this for 2 reasons.

1. This is the norm nowadays and we wanted them to not feel awkward when they were older.

2. The main reason though it the fact that medically, it is easier for boys to stay clean. Un-cir'd tend to develop UTI and infections from the foreskin not being cleaned properly. However, i think if you are dedicated to making sure your little one is clean and knows the importance of cleaning it when older, it is not a big deal.

I think this is a very personal decision and it is an important one. Good luck!

Becky said...

I've been reading your blog for a while, but I don't think I've ever posted. I'm due just a week after you are.

We're having a girl, but we had decided that if it were a boy, he would not be circumcised, but only because my husband is not. It's a very personal decision, but we chose for the baby to have what the daddy does.

paige said...

i think there's a lot of misinformation out there about the "uncleanliness" of boys who are uncirc'd! Wow.
Neither of my sons are, and when i asked the dr. she told me that these days, less than 10% of parents decide to circ because it's medically unnecessary & contrary to the myth out there that they don't feel it, it's an extremely painful procedure that in itself often times causes infection & difficulty in cleaning. With my boys, i just left them alone - when they're about 4 or so, the skin pulls back on it's own & then i teach them how to pull it back & wash when they're in the tub. No biggie. i agree, it's a really personal decision, but a good idea to get both sides of the story :)

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Maddy said...

Sorry for such a long web address but the address is to a lightweight stroller at Target and it could go boy orr girl so in the future if you have a baby girl then you could use it for her too.
Just a suggestion.
My email is maddyforeman@yahoo.com

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Thomas said...

We had our son circumcised and would do it again if we had another son.

We also love our Chicco stroller--very lightweight and maneuverable. Wearing the baby in a sling can also be very convenient, especially if you're nursing.

:)

Jess said...

My brother is not and neither is Greg, so we go back and forth with this question...we don't know what we'll do when we have a boy. My brother and Greg have never had a problem with this...both simply state that all you need is good hygeine (sp)! I can't vouch for my brother, but G's skin pulls back and even looks like it is cicumcised, I didn't know he wasn't for a long time (I know, crazy)! It really is a personal opinion.

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Kim said...

Our son is circumcised and it is definitely an individual decision. Babies do feel pain but steps are taken to ease their discomfort. In my institution they use a lidocaine block before starting and sucrose on the pacifier during. I've seen babies scream through the entire thing (not that lengthy) and others don't let out a peep. If at all possible I would have it done in the hospital because they are very practiced.

prettybyrdie said...

I second the comment left by Paige. We're due the week before you and are having a little boy. My husband is not and has never had a problem. His parents are doctors and don't believe that the medical advantages (slightly lower chance of infections) outweigh the disadvantages (performing a painful surgery on a well infant that can also lead to infections and sometimes more serious complications). Other than feeling that it wasn't medically necessary, I do know that the trend is now changing to not circumcise, which defeats the whole "locker-room" argument, which also seemed like kind of a silly reason to cut off a piece of your body! But when it comes down to it it is a personal decision. There are religious aspects to it to. We're Christian and feel like the Bible specifically says we don't have to do it anymore. Shrug.

Dan and Gretchen said...

Our boys were circumcised and for many reasons it's best to do it at birth if you are going to do it.

As far as the stroller...we have Chicco "umbrella" stroller and love it. I've also seen the little graco frames you can just hook your car seat on for very inexpensive too.

Kahla said...

#1 We chose to circumcise Chase because DH is and we wanted to look the same. If DH weren't, then we wouldn't have. That being said, you need to look into who does the circumcising if you decide to do it. In our case, my OB (that I love) did it, but he did a crappy job. He was very conservative and even though you can tell Chase is circumcised, we are looking at possibly having to redo it in the future. :o( We are trying other options right now, but that's another story. If this baby would have been a boy, we would have opted to have our pedi's office do it, we didn't know that was a choice last time.

#2, We have a Maclaren and I LOVE LOVE LOVE it. It's pricier, but it has more than paid for itself. We actually got a Joovy caboose for when we have both and then we'll just use the Maclaren for when one is with us.

Dawn said...

I would say that whatever your hubby is, do that for your boy so that he will look like his Daddy. Personally, if I had a boy, I would get it done because of the horror stories I have heard about teenagers having problems when they start going thru puberty. It is so much more painful if they are older -- as an infant, the area is numbed and the baby hardly feels anything. I work in a NICU and have watched numerous circumcisions! The baby never remembers what happened!

Shannon said...

My son is. I left that up to my husband, and he was all for it. My only concern about it was the pain. When I found out the hospital did numb the boys up, that made me feel better. From what I understand, some hospitals dont, they just have them drink sugar water. I didnt want my guy to feel anything other than the numbing. I'm glad we chose to do it.

Joy said...

It's such a personal decision to circumcise that telling you we WOULD circumcise (if we ever have a boy) wouldn't really help.

From a religious standpoint- if you read the Bible you'll find God instructed holy men to be circumcised in order to become clean and holy and set apart from unrighteous men. Heck, if God sees it as important, I do too! Not sure if you're a believer or not but thought I'd add that.

And I don't care what ANYONE says- I think uncirc men are gross. I think it's very unsanitary.

Good luck with your decision!

Jen, Terry, and Ethan said...

I also LOVE my Chicco lightweight stroller. It comes in a lot of fun colors and is much nice than the cheap $15 umbrella strollers. My husband also likes it b/c the handles are slightly higher than the normal umbrella stroller and it comes with the sun shade.

My son is also circumcised, it wasn't even something that we really discussed, we both knew it was what we wanted. Our pediatrician did it right in the hospital.

Tabitha said...

As a "still" infertile (bummer, right? lol!) I have no usefull stroller advise, but I can say that if I had precious little boy I'd be on team circumcise!! It just seems...cleaner I guess! Totally a personal choice though, and you guys would have to make that decision on your own...I'd just pray about it if I were you and see where the Lord takes you!!

Josh, Jenny, & Emma Newnam said...

The Chicco lightweight strollers are awesome. They are sturdy and they only weigh 7 lbs.

JB said...

Both my boys are circumcised. It is an easy process that leaves them much cleaner and hygenic. Reduces the possibility of urinary tract infections too. Ask for the "bell procedure". we did that with #2 and it healed much faster and was easier to take care of in the process.
I love my Chicco! They are brightly colored and perfect for short trips when you need something that doesn't take up the whole truck. My 5 year old loves it because he can push his baby brother all by himself!
Best of luck to you...

The Gardella's said...

We just had a little guy in August, and we had him circumcised at 2 days. He did not seem as though he was bothered to much by it, and he was fully healed within a week.

Also we just purchased the Combi stroller. So lightweight, easy to fold, and comfortable. It has an adjustment to lay completely back or sit up. Also it has a cup holder and basket on the bottom. Totally recommend it.

The Girls Mommy said...

There are many opinions in the area of circumcision. Some people decide to circumcise or NOT circumcise because they want their son to "look" like daddy.
The best advice I ever received when I was preganant with my first child was "listen to everyone's opinions and advice, then choose what works best for you." So, with that being said, I think the best thing that you can do is know why you are making the decision that you are making and don't let someone make you feel crummy because of your decisions. YOU are the Mommy! =) Here's a website that is pretty thorough in regards to circumcision. . .
http://www.circinfo.net/health-benefits-and-reviews.html
No matter what you decide- HE WILL BE PERFECT. . .

Pam said...

This is my first comment to you so congratulations and I hope you will be blessed again soon! My children are 11 years, 11 years and 11 minutes apart.

I think boys are created the way God intended them to be.

Many years ago after seeing a newborn strapped down and screaming during the circumcision procedure I decided against it.

My son in law and my little twins are not circumcised. My son in laws mother said the doctor called it unnecessary mutilation.

Before my babies were born I asked my 16 year nephew about the locker room, he said, "Ewwww, NO ONE LOOKS."

I think baby boys diaper area is way easier to clean than girls. You just deal with it.

Welcome to parenting and good luck with all the decisions.

Sarah said...

My guy is circumcised... mostly just so he could "be like daddy!" It is a personal choice...but just so you know, I think I was more uncomfortable with the whole procedure than he was, as a baby.... They gave him something to numb him and then gave him some sugar water to suck... he did not even cry...

As for strollers... we LOVE our Combi lightweight! It has lasted through 2 kids and is in great shape! Super light and folds up easy! I can do it with one hand! It comes in fun colors, and the kids seem comfortable in it! In fact, I would, if I could do it again... avoid purchasing the big travel system and go with the combi... I always carried my babies when they were small anyway! :)

kim_brough said...

CIRCUMCISE, CIRCUMCISE, CIRCUMCISE!! It is more sightly and more sanitary. No matter how well momma teaches them to clean it as a child, when they are elderly and can't, they are moer likely to get UTI's and go septic and end up in the ICU with me. CIRCUMCISE, CIRCUMCISE, CIRCUMCISE!

Angela said...

My son is not circumcised and we are happy with that decision. He's 6 now. I just remind him every time he's in the bath to wash with soap and he's fine.

It's a myth that an infant doesn't feel the pain of circumcision. They do. However, as far as I know they are always given pain meds now before the surgery so you don't need to worry about him being in pain while it's done (if you choose to do so).

I'm having trouble remembering the exact statistic our ped gave us, but I think it is close to 35% of boys (not including Jewish ones) are not circumcised. It is becoming more of a norm not to.

My hubby IS circumcised but did not feel that was a good reason at all for our son. My son knows he looks different than Daddy but I can tell he feels a little pride that Daddy "got cut" (his words) when he was a baby and DS did not. There are SO many ways that fathers and sons are alike that physical appearance similarities are not high on the list...at least for me.

Also, I am not Jewish, but have read about their circumcisions. As far as I understand the Jewish circumcision is not as "complete" as the medical ones today. i.e. they don't cut as much skin off.

We chose to not circumcise because we did not feel it is medically necessary. The practice of circumcising in America started as an effort to try to avoid little boys "masturbating" when they discovered themselves. (Supposedly the uncircumcised males feel greater sexual pleasure. Not so sure about that though.)

Having said all that, I am in complete agreement that this is a very personal decision for you and Tom to make together. There is no right or wrong here. I'm sure that whatever you decide you will be happy with.

The Steward Family said...

#1 We chose to circumcise our son and I'm glad we did. It was important for my husband and I that he look like Daddy. Of course, it is a very personal decision and so many feel strongly one way or the other. Whatever you decide is right for you!
#2 We also have the Chicco lightweight stroller and love it. I recently saw an article in babytalk with the Cosco Juvenile Altura. It is only $55 and has a tray for the child and drink holders for the parents. It may not fold quite as small as the Chicco one though and probably isn't as easy to find.

Hope those answers help! Good luck!

WantWait&Pray said...

Hi hun. I was at the hospital both times that my nephews were taken down by their pedi's to be circ'd. I saw the tiny little faces before and after, and they came back fine. My sister was scared to put them through the pain but they numb the area, give them a tiny big of sugar water if they need extra comfort and then minutes later.....they are sleeping again. In fact, my oldest nephew slept through it!

It's a personal decision for you and your DH, but if we have boys- we will definitely be doing it.

Good luck!

LucieP said...

wow it's really interesting to see all the responses on here!~

Both my boys are circumcised. I never thought about not doing it.
Thinking about it now, if I had to justify it, it would be to look like daddy but also because it seems easier to care for. Even with both of my boys having it, I still had and have to pull the skin back when changing their diapers/ giving them baths. The only time there wasn't extra skin was when their penis' were erect. It makes me wonder what it woulda been like if they weren't circ'd.

VAF said...

As others have said, either way your little man will be fine, so don't fret too much about the decision. My hubby (who is circumcised) and I have gone back and forth on the decision, but what finally convinced us to go ahead with circumcision was hearing that hubby's cousin had to get circumcised at the age of 7 (twice because the first time didn't work!) due to uncontrollable infections, it took a month to heal, and he had to wear a skirt the entire time because it was too painful to wear paints. Needless to say it was a pretty traumatic experience for him! Obviously this is a very unlikely scenario, but it was enough to convince me that I don't want my son to ever have to go through it when he's older. My father is uncircumcised and is very against circumcision, calling it mutilation, and insists that he never had any problems with keeping it clean. But my mother says he seems to have conveniently forgotten the period when he was a teenager and developed some nasty infections under there. From what I've heard though, most men are happy either way with what they have, so just do what feels right for you guys.

Jackie said...

It surly is a personal decision so why not let him decide for himself when he is old enough. We hadn't talked about the subject until the day after our son was born, then our Dr. asked us if we were going to make him mutilate this poor defenseless baby. Needless to say we were a quite shocked at his statement. The doc said it could always be done later if it was a problem to him but it was irreversible and could never be returned to him, and God had put it there for a reason in the first place which is to protect the head of the penis and other more pleasurable reasons. As for the cleanliness factor it is not difficult for a proactive parent to teach a child to be clean there just as you do with his other body pars, we did and our son has never had any problems. I would think the fellows who need to have it done as adults are way down there in the minority as compared to the healthy normal ones who get along fine and enjoy having their foreskin intact. So try not to listen to the horror stories that abound, why not search on Dr. Google and read the pros and cons for yourself.

John, Jessica and Emma said...

#1- We don't have a boy, so I have no personal experience. I personally would want to have it done. The bible (OT) does say that men should be as it is a sign of the covenant... however bible-NT changes everything. So it is a personal decision and is not going to affect whether he gets to Heaven :).

#2- We have the Evenflo XSport Convenience Stroller in Pink (obviously you would want a different color) but I LOVE it. It is very light weight and has a mini basket underneight. It is nothing fancy, but was only $40.00 and still has 2 parent cup holders and a zipper pocket for billfold or whatever. It is alot nicer than the little umbrella strollers and pretty comparable to the more expensive lightweight strollers!

Molly said...

We had Cooper circumsized, mostly for the apperance. I know there are cleanliness issues related to not being, but our doc said unless you live without clean water, then it isn't a problem.

I only have the 1 graco travel system stroller, and I travel with it. It has been fine for us.

Ok, so I didn't really help with either question. :)
Have a great day!

Sugar and Ice said...

I have three girls, but I'll still weigh in on the circumcision talk. I'm a leader of a large mommy group in my city, and the number of parents circumcising babies seems to get lower and lower as time goes by. Of the ones in our group that have gotten their boys circumcised, so many of them have issues with the procedure, and I can think of several right now that have had to have them redone. So, while there was a point in time when I would have said that I absolutely would have a son of mine circumcised, I think now I would probably rethink that decision. Several people I know used the logic that their husband was circumcised and they wanted their babies to look like Daddy...that is the oddest thing I've ever heard. Who cares if Daddy's penis matches Baby's??? Anyway, that's just my two cents.

As for lightweight strollers, I never really felt the need to buy one. I just used my travel system stroller, and never gave it a second thought. I eventually was given a cheap umbrella stroller, and it's fine, but I'm a tall person, and it's really too short for me. If I were going to buy one, I'd probably get a Combi.

Beth said...

1) yes

2) i have the chicco lightweight stoller and i LOVE it! i don't even use my big one anymore.

Suzy said...

I have 3 boys and they all were, for sure.

Cin said...

I have two sons, neither are circumcised, nor is their father. My boys, from the moment they could bathe themselves have been taught to was their willy (the outside of the penis) and then to wash their penis (obviously the head etc when the foreskin is pulled back). My smallest child has a single kidney and is at risk for UTI's but hasn't had a single one.

You are right in that it is a deeply personal choice, so leave it up to your son to decide.

Stephanie said...

We circumcised all of our boys. I've heard if you don't do it and they decide to do it later on in life it's much more complicated and painful!

Kalle said...

We didn't circumcise our little guy. As long as it's kept clean and you teach them how to clean it there's no reason for a baby to go through pain like that.

williamson family said...

#1- Kyah was circumcised today and though it was sad to watch him go through it, it's totally worth it. There are several reasons that we chose this route. We chose it first and foremost because the Bible says that it's the right thing to do. This is obviously a Christian thing but it's very important to me to Live the Word of God. Second, for hygiene and third because it's WAY more painful to have done as an adult in the event that he chose to have it done in the future. Yes they might go through pain now but they do not remember it. My husband was ALL for the circumcision as he knows that it's something he would not want to get done as an adult and because he knows that he doesn't remember a thing about the pain. (No man does).
#2- Babies R Us has a GREAT umbrella stroller for $29.99. Great buy!

tessa said...

#1 I have circumcised my boys because their Daddy was but we had some adhesions with my littlest son and that was not a fun process to get resolved. I don't think I would do it again now that I've watched his circ and the aftermath. None of my family (brothers, dad) are and they have never had a problem. If you do do it INSIST that he have a full penile block and topical anesthesia. Some crazy doctors say they won't remember it and can't feel pain so there is no need for it.
#2 Love my Chicco umbrella stroller. Good sun shade, reclines for a nap in the stroller, light weight, folds small, good for travel.
You're almost there! Yay!

Angela said...

Jackie...Yikes that was a strong statement from your doctor. You'd have felt terrible if you WERE going to circ. At the hospital the Doc asked us. We said no, and he said, "Good, it's not necessary." But that was it.

As for circumcision being commanded by God...I have to disagree... It was a sign of the covenant between the Hebrew people and God. In the new testament though there are many verses that go to great lengths to say it is no longer a req. of God's. A Christian isn't commanded to circ or not. I think it's pretty much a non-issue.

The Kowalskis said...

Good for you for researching this and not just doing it because it's the "norm". Truth is, it's not the norm anymore. Less then 50 percent of parents are still choosing to circumcise and that number keeps falling. Before we know it, no one will be doing it, which is how it should be. God made us a certain way, why do we feel the need to alter it?

We had a baby boy 7 weeks ago and did not circumcise. I couldn't imagine taking this sweet new life and cutting him & hurting him. No matter what people say, it hurts them. A lot.

As far as the "looking like daddy" thing, how many times will your son really be looking at your husbands penis? And, if/when he does, and if he notices they are different, have faith that your husband can handle explaining why they look different.

Here is an excellent article we found when we were researching. I hope it helps you.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/1/t012000.asp

Mallory said...

First, congratulations on your little boy! I've been following your blog for a while now, and really enjoy it. =)

I'm 28 weeks along with my first (also a boy!), and my husband and I are not going to circumcise.

I agree with other posters that it is a very personal decision, but it was almost a non-issue with us. See, my husband is from The Netherlands, where circumcision is just not common. In fact, barring religious customs that dictate it, most Europeans leave their boys uncut. And, well, they seem to be doing fine (the studies on HIV transmission and the correlation between circumcision tend to get their stats from less developed nations, so keep in mind differences between the West in sexual education/practices and even access to soap and water).

As far as the aesthetics of it all, I suspect many Americans have never actually seen an au naturale penis before. To be honest, I hadn't until I met my husband, and you know what? I didn't even notice until he told me! Once it was pointed out, I could see the difference only when completely flaccid, and the difference was so minor, I have a hard time imagining how cutting off a bit of skin makes any amount of positive difference in the overall attractiveness.

Finally (sorry this is so long!), I just wanted to comment on the whole "uncircumcised men get nasty infections" argument. My husband never has ... but I have, and I bet so has every other woman who posted a comment. Yeast infections, UTIs -- these are things that, regardless of how careful we are, women sometimes just get. And I bet we'd all be horrified if someone suggested cutting off a part of our genitalia to lower our risk of getting either! Why are boys and men any different?

Anyway, I do truly believe it is a personal decision, but since you and your husband are debating, I thought I'd give my two cents. While we're choosing not to circumcise our son now, overall, I feel we just have temporary guardianship over his body. When he's older, he can do whatever he wants to his own genitals.

Lynne said...

I think boys have a hard enough time being "different" as far as other things go. My son is 15 and is 6'7". I'm glad he doesn't have ONE MORE THING about which to feel different. I know that might sound like a silly reason to other people - to have him circumcised to "fit in with the crowd," but I have a feeling that if you don't have him circumcised he will wish you had. And if you DO have him circumcised, chances are he is not going to wish you hadn't. Ya know? :)